When boredom rocks your confidence! I had to work hard to work out what boredom was really doing to me, but what a surprise when I arrived at the answer.

Have you ever experienced a time while working that nothing mattered? That nothing stimulated you to do the next thing with enthusiasm! This happened to me again recently, so I took time to look at what was going on with my emotions and thoughts.

To my surprise I found that I was bored. Why was I experiencing this feeling of boredom? What message was it concealing while overwhelming me with a feeling of desperation? What is the effect of boredom on motivation? Well my exploration turned up something very strange.

What is boredom anyway?

Strangely the boredom I felt was not about a lack of interest in my activity or circumstance, but a sense of sorrow. Going further I could see that the sorrow was based on a unresolved sense of failure, but failure about what? Once I could get still I didn’t have to search to far for the answer. You will not have to search far if you ever happen to experience something similar.

The work that I was engaged in had some how being playing with my psyche. What was in this work that triggered the deep seated sorrow? What I encountered rocked me. I was feeling unfulfilled! This feeling robs our confidence without reservation.

I was missing the mark of my higher calling by continuing to compromise and cruise and function from habit instead of serve from passion and knowledge of what I find fulfilling.

When emotional signals like boredom rise to our conscious mind, our confidence can be severely shaken if we cannot get in touch with the hidden message. When we do not, or cannot unravel its message we misinterpret their signal and to escape we read it as boredom. If we dig deeper with the same level of understanding we then interpret it as being a personal failure rather than regret due to a divergence from our purpose!

The boredom will not necessarily disappear because of our new found awareness, but your confidence will increase!

However, the boredom can be brought under our control as we set to getting back on track. We can take back our power and confidence to move with purpose towards our goal with the new understanding of the effect of boredom.

Are you ready to say enough is enough? Share your story of how you have overcome your shadows.

#changeforsuccess #emotionalintelligence #shakingofboredom

Have you seen posts with the following headings ‘why goal setting doesn’t work!’, ‘don’t set goals!’

They state that setting goals puts you too far into the future! That goals should only be used to measure the time it takes to feel successful. That goal setting would or could lead to disappointment. Instead of goals they suggest setting up systems, processes, habits.

So what goal setting be about?

If you set goals will you focus on that outcome to the exclusion of being present on the journey? Would you ever jump on a bus with me and be happy that I have a process but no goal? Would you be happy to take a journey without having a goal or destination? Ok, maybe not!

But is setting up a system, process or habit the way to change for success? Can a process give the same focus to want you want to achieve?

I listened to a few of these videos and podcasts and was astounded to hear the speakers saying that goal setting DOES work! They even went as far as to tell the listener that they used goal setting constantly to build their business, network or wealth. What confusion!

So, were these post titles just click bate?

Are titles designed to hook the minds of the desperate who are to fearful to permit themselves to have goals? Hooking people who will desperately surrender to the promised alchemy of persuasion that avoids commitment to their objective? Would such titles as ‘goal setting doesn’t work!’ encourage the meanders to drop the bone (that which they hold as a goal) for the shadow (the promise of a process, habit or system)? What is the purpose of a system or a process? Is it about the endpoint or about the heavy lifting needed to get there?

I found that most of these videos were trying to tell the listener to enjoy the journey, to be present at every moment of their experience, but now how to create or hold on to a goal.

Are these meaningless words?

To create change for success we need a vision of the outcome (goal) because without this we will perish. We need endurance which builds our stamina to push through motivational blockages and resilience to bounce back. Then when things get tough, when people and situations says ‘you’re not enough!’, ‘you can’t do it!’ and you have a goal, you are able to hold on to the possibilities it will bring.

The bottom line is we need the narrow focus of goal setting as this gives clarity to maintain the visions, and then apply the process or system. This forms the best route to success,

Have the confidence to know what you want. Set the goal and then put systems in place to support you in achieving it

Take personal responsibility for your goals. Hold on to the satisfaction that you will experience once the outcome is achieved. And run your race with patience, marking your progress along the way. #changeforsuccess

The other day I was tagged on a post about gratitude. The post asked for comments on what we are grateful for. Well, this post caused me to stop, to pause for thought… Does gratitude really improve our success? What is the likelihood that gratitude is the element that creates a significant swing away from failure? If gratitude is important how does it work its magic?

After much thought I came to the following conclusion about gratitude and how it improves our success…

… I came up with 3 stages – Thanksgiving, appreciation, then gratitude…

1. Thanksgiving clears the air so that we are clear on our goals. It is an ongoing process activated long before we see the outcome of our ambitions and goals. Here we can look back into past successes to count our blessings by reminding ourselves, one by one.

PS: did you know that this also builds confidence?

2. Appreciation acknowledges the giver of gifts and requests. It also frees the giver from obligation to deliver, and this permitting them to give above and beyond what you have asked or desired.

This is the process of receiving our request.

3. Gratitude is the act of acceptance!!. It is the emotional state we call joy. It is a sense of pure satisfaction and knowing that our desires are accomplished. Gratitude does not require us to look back to count our blessings. It is the knowledge that we are successful in our endeavours.

Gratitude is a state of presence!

What do you think? Have I said what you felt intuitively?

#success #gratitude #grateful #emotionalintelligence

The route to success avoids fear and getting clear on your goal, however, the path is always presented as a simple set of steps, but is that all it takes?

Recently, I have learnt that understanding of the different stages is important because this is the only way to understand why we sometime stall, however, it appears that the thoughts that we entertain are equally as important if not the most significant trigger of a barrier or open flood gate.

Explore these steps below that focus on the mindset of success. This process starts at the bottom and each stage is built on the last. To ensure that this process works for you why not try it out for 60 days and monitor the results at 7 day milestones.

Become the servant

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Be fully persuaded in the value of your mission

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Face your fears, doubts and misgiving with full commitment to not give up until you learn what secrets they hold

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Sample and examine all the emotions that present themselves as you begin to implement

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Design the route that will get your clients from where you are to where they want to be.

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Get clear on who you want to share with and why

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What reputation do you want to build

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Get clear on your goal